I don’t want people to…
I don’t want people to put limits in their relationships.
I don’t want people to follow other people’s advises about relationships.
I don’t want people to have the stereotype of “married” woman, where she just sits at home, doesn’t want go anywhere,and just waits for her fiancé/husband/boyfriend.
I know my live may be different compare to others. I have been judged by other people for being ” in a hurry”. But does relationship have a time limits? No kiss before third date, no sex before being a month together, no living together before a year. Doesn’t it sound stupid? Why should I follow someone’s suggestions, or advises from the magazines?
People are different…. and all relationships are different too. You cannot just give a plan of acting for each relationship. Each relationship is unique, and YOU and YOUR PARTNER are the only people who know when it’s right or wrong to do such things.
I stopped buying all these Cosmo magazines and reading their advises how to spices your relationship. They are not gonna help you. And not only magazines, but other people will not be able to help your relationship if it is falling apart.
You the only one in the world who knows how to make your partner happy. I suggest to stop buying these magazines for these advises, and save these 5-6$ to buy a little sweet surprise for you significant other. That what’s going to make relationship better.
Just try to follow your heart and feelings and be yourself, but not advices form other people. You always can listen to them and simply explain your position, and what YOU think. And anyway, you are the one who is in this relationship, not them. And IF you ended up being wrong about your decision…. oh, well.. it is an experience, and we all make mistakes.
My relationship may not be an example for you, but I think it can prove that if you follow your heart and be yourself you will be happy.
We simply started as friends… And maybe that’s why it was easier for us. We did not want to impress anyone, we just were us. After couples weeks we had our first date… we just fell in love. There were nothing extraordinary in our actions, we just talked, we just started learning about each other.
Couple days later first “I love you”.
3-4 months later we started living together in our apartment.
6 months later I met his parents in France. (Unfortunately, he can’t meet mine, because they are in Russia :(.)
Now, we have been together for 1.5 years. Do I regret about how and when it happened? No.
Do I want to change something? No.
Did I follow my friends advices? No. The only people I listened to were my parents, who said that I need to do what I think is right and make my mistakes and learn from them.
I am really happy now, and i don’t think I could be any happier. After constantly making mistakes in my previous relationships, I learned that there is no better thing as just being yourself, not depending on anyone.
I am not judging anyone here. If you want to follow advices of other people, it is your choice…. But I think there is nothing worse than don’t do something what you felt like doing and then regret about it after…